Hapiness is gone once you realize your mortality. On the contrary, realising our mortality often makes people realise that every moment is precious, therefore even the smallest things, like breathing, smelling, and seeing, waking up in the morning, bring them joy.
Life is a gift, when you know how precious it is. Perspective and a change of heart changes. It is a choice though. Could this possibly mean that we are not raising children well enough by not giving them the emotional regularity skills they need to be happy?
Are we not teaching them what happiness is? And why would a person reinforce those negative feels if they have the emotional regulatory skills they need to be happy. How would one go about changing their focus? I seem to just be filled with questions. I think depression is only normal if its a temporary feeling of depression that can be self regulated, thus allowing a person to feel more then just depression all the time. One of the reasons that I choose to be low is as a sort of self preservation response.
Like when some flowers are threatened, their petals will close for a time. This is my safeguard against having to move from a good to a low place again when threatened. As my petals reopen, I feel humble. Well, so what would be a good way to fix these choices? I mean, what i could do, for example? Well put article. It would be better if solutions were included too. Like the guy up there is saying, what to do next? Just my thoughts.
Thusly a way to avoid being anxious or fearful. The more depressing stimuli is already in a state which renders no further possibility where a positive stimuli has the possibility of going in many mental directions. This could tax a fragile hormonal system. Too much expectation. Fear is a journey, a terrible journey. But, sorrow is at least an arriving. Perhaps there was a component of disillusionment that also takes place when depression moves in, accounting for the shift in world view.
So just pull yourself up by your bootstraps. You can choose evidently to not be. Get out of your head. Stop moping. Fix yourself. I say that to myself every day. E-v-e-r-y day. Why would you say that to yourself? There is an entrance to depression, an event or occurance, that tells your Self to feel depressed. Therefore, please know that there is an equally strong opposing potential.
That is the simple yet very effective strategy perhaps it is a coping skill? I have learned. Choose to change your mind. Think outside of the box of depression into which you have somehow chosen to place yourself. You may never be able to fix other people, but you can willfully and beautifully choose to fix yourself. Nobody else can. Choose to be the best and do the best that you can. Neaely all the people thag ive known said that being sad is a choice but why would sadness not be a choice and happiness be one…..
Emotions are NOT controllable. Happiness is not a choice and neither is sadness. You obviously have never been depressed, why are you here?
Wonderful, amazing. To the point. The answer is clear. Now I need help. I became interested in this subject when I walked into work and my co worker. I like to start my day out happy. But I get his point. We cling to the emotions we are feeling. I had a bad few weeks about a year ago where nothing I did would make me happy.
I went and ate dinner and saw movies with friends and could hardly smile even though I wanted to. My friends also criticized me for being a downer. I eventually went outside got lots of sunlight and started to go into nature more and that helped dramatically. Just a theory on why we may stick closer to sad pictures or sad songs. Thank you for reading. Thank you for your post. When I have been severely depressed it has been because I felt hopeless, trapped, like I cant win, like I am being controlled.
I hate those feelings. Life is a series of growing closer to others and then growing apart slowly. But as we age we lose more close relatives and friends due to natural death. The sadness is the loss of a dear friend. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention CDC found that nearly 10 percent of adults aged 40 to 59 years had depression between and Symptoms and causes of depression can vary widely from person to person.
Gender may also play an important role in why a person is affected by depression, and what it feels like to them. It can be hard to explaining how depression feels to someone who has not experienced it.
Although many people with depression feel sadness, it feels much more severe than emotions that come and go in response to life events. The symptoms of depression can last for months or years and can make it difficult or impossible to carry on with daily life. Doctors will usually look for symptoms that have lasted at least 2 weeks as possible signs of depression. Many people mistakenly believe that being depressed is a choice, or that they need to have a positive attitude.
Depression is a real mental illness. Those who have depression cannot simply decide to stop feeling depressed. Unlike typical sadness or worry, depression feels all-consuming and hopeless.
Depression can be caused by a number of factors. Though a single cause cannot always be found, experts recognize the following as possible causes :. Relationship problems are a common cause of depression in women. Scientists suggest this is due to :. One study of twin brothers and sisters published in The American Journal of Psychiatry found that personality and relationships with others were more likely to play a role in the onset of depression. In particular, the study stated that marital problems, the relationship with parents, and lack of social support were more likely to cause depression in women than in men.
Neuroticism , or being in a negative emotional state, was also a primary cause of depression in the women studied. Other times it may be caused by different factors such as: A family history of depression may mean you are more likely to develop it. A medical condition or a chronic illness can contribute to depression through your stress and worry. A stressful event can trigger depression. For example, a family or relationship breakup, job loss and financial pressure, bullying, trauma, and the death of a friend or loved.
People who tend to worry a lot, are self-critical and have negative thoughts are at risk. Symptoms of depression People experience depression in different ways. Below are some common symptoms of depression. Mood feeling sad, moody or irritable feeling hopeless or helpless feeling numb or empty feeling guilty and blaming yourself unable to feel good or enjoy things that you normally do. Behaviour lack of motivation and energy crying a lot losing interest in activities you usually enjoy withdrawing from your friends and family or being more dependent on them increased use of alcohol or other drugs losing your temper more than usual.
Physical loss of appetite or over-eating changes in sleep patterns — difficulty getting to sleep, waking up in the middle of the night or sleeping for longer headaches or stomach aches feeling physically sick lack of interest in sex.
Men and depression There are several myths about depression that can make men reluctant to talk about or seek help for their depression. Treatment for depression Like a physical illness, depression can be treated. Helping someone who is depressed If your loved one or friend is depressed, here are some things you can do: Help him find a GP or a mental health professional such as MensLine Australia counsellor so he can get support.
Offer your support and understanding. Talk to him and listen to what he has to say. Invite him out. Men with depression may be at risk for suicide. If he is in a crisis, get help quickly. Call Suicide Call Back Service on or call Road to recovery If you are on treatment and start to feel better, try doing things that you used to enjoy before you were diagnosed as depressed. If you need help, talk to someone. More from signs and symptoms of depression Filter Self-help What is.
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